"I Can't Recognize Her Anymore" -- Husband Divorces Wife After Seeing Her Without Makeup

A husband divorced his wife when he saw her without makeup for the first time days after they tied the knot. The man, 34, accused his 28-year-old bride of deceiving him by wearing cosmetics and false eyelashes before their wedding.

The newlyweds’ honeymoon ended abruptly after they went for a swim in the sea at Al Mamzar Beach in Dubai.

The husband was said to have been shocked when the water washed off her makeup and claimed he did not recognise his wife.

Dr Abdul Aziz Asaf, a consultant psychologist, has been working with the unidentifed woman to help her get over the split.

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The Prostitute's arguement

As for using what you have to get what you want, you need to understand that there are definitely things that are more important than just what you want in life and there are dozens of alternative ways to achieve them if they are im­portant.

The purpose of God for your life and the legacy you will leave on earth after your existence are more important than temporary self-satisfaction. Good name is better than riches. PROSTI­TUTE is not a good name. It is an impediment to your destiny and it can affect the destiny of your children (God’s heritage), if any. But there is hope for you.

“Before I formed thee in the belly, I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb, I sanctified thee” (Jere­miah 1:5 KJV).

If you understand that God created you so that you will be a blessing to other people on earth, there is no way you can do some of the things you do.

You are not in this world for you alone. There are hundreds of young innocent minds in your street, apartment, office, church or town who see you as models. There is no opportuni­ty to explain to them that you are not so happy with the idea of sleeping around to get mon­ey, but that you are just doing it for A, B, C reasons. You don’t even know them but they have observed and registered your lifestyle as a standard or prop­er norm. They have even made up their minds that your dimen­sion of prostitution is little com­pared to what they would do in future, when they attain your age or status. So, your life has an impact (positive or negative) on the destiny of many people. You see that God’s judgement is near you, concerning those you have led astray with your lifestyle in this world, against his will.

God is expecting something from you at the end of your stay on earth – an account of what you did /span>

The truth is that you can never know the purpose of God for your life except you discov­er the God of the purpose. He created you; you did not create yourself (Psalm 100:3).

God did not send you into this world to expose your life to ritual killers in the streets and hotels at night just to have sex and receive money. You are more valuable than that. He did not create you to come to this earth and die faster than his plan by contracting sexu­ally transmitted diseases. This is why there is hope of mercy and healing for even those that are already victims of diseases, if only they can repent.

God has not sent you to live in the fear of tomorrow and cheapen yourself to the extent of destroying his temple.

“Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that the spirit of God dwelleth in you? If any man defiles the temple of God, him shall God destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which temple ye are” (1Corin­thians 3:16-17 KJV).

God did not send you into this world to traffic people to hell by coordinating pre-mari­tal sex as your profession. God could not have sent you into this world to work against his will by marrying your spouse, only to toil with his or her emotions through your infidelity. By the way, God may never honour your prayers if you dishonour your spouse in anyway, includ­ing infidelity (1Peter 3:7 KJV).

Momentary pleasure has al­ways and will ever be destruc­tive. Therefore, always car­ry your brain along whenever your heart begins to misbehave or manifest lust. Think.

All the prostitute’s argu­ments have terrible implica­tions. There is possibility of a damaged womb and childless­ness after several abortions and systemic complications and in­fections. This is against God’s plans for you.

A scandalous future is in the waiting; this can affect your marital life and even create spiritual and moral burden for your children. There is an im­age problem, even for a corpo­rate prostitute, before God and man, except there is a repent­ance and encounter with Jesus Christ.

Exposure to dangers of rape, ritual killing and sudden death is not God’s plan for his crea­ture but this is the plight of the prostitute.

Above all, by working against your creator’s will by misleading the younger gen­eration to think that corpo­rate, roadside, blow job or any form of prostitution is a posi­tive thing, you are an enemy of God and “God is angry with the wicked everyday (Psalm 7:11).

But THERE IS HOPE FOR YOU. Jesus Christ died for peo­ple like you. He did not die for nothing. No matter how terribly deep you are into this sin of for­nication or adultery, he can for­give you. Surrender your life to Jesus right now.

Say this prayer from your heart: “Lord Jesus. I come to you as I am. Please, forgive me my sins. Have mercy on me. Write my name in the book of life. Take over my life from today. Thank you Jesus for coming into my life in Jesus name. Amen! Congratulations. You are born again now. Isn’t this amazing? Go and sin no more. Your mar­riage shall be a blessing and a testimony in Jesus name”.

See more details in the book, MAKING YOUR MARRIAGE WORK by Albinus Chiedu.

Your marriage shall be a miracle and a testimony in Je­sus name (Amen).

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Are men really getting smaller?

These are certainly not the best of times for today’s men. Findings show they’re short, smelly and liars! The case of the shrinking penis! Let’s hope it really is what they do with it and not the size that matters because a recent study shows men’s penises are getting smaller! This shocking discovery by the Life-style Condom Company (with a bit of help from latex-gloved nurses) is bound not to thrill either sexes. Previously, the Kinsey S3x Report put the average penis size at between 6.2 and 6.4 inches, but the condom poll claims it’s now 5.877 inches—with two thirds of the 1,000 men studied measuring between 5.1 and 6.2 inches. This discovery could answer two of our times most perplexing questions: Why vibrator sales are at a record high and why ex-girl-friends keep going back to their well endowed lovers. Short-men Syndrome: It’s official; short men have less luck with the ladies. The discovery, set to shock vertically challenged men everywhere, comes from Southampton Hospital. They have evidence that birth size influences emotional development. After studying 3,500 medical records and comparing them to marital status, social class and income, the team claims small babies are programmed to be shy in the womb and small boys, who grow to be short adults, are less likely to marry early. I love you, but ... So there’s a scientific excuse after all! The reason men have an urge for one-night stand is testosterone. Even though they may believe they have a huge attraction to a woman one night, when reality and or sobriety hits, the feelings disappear as quickly as they arrived. Men are different because the centres for emotion and reason are better connected in a woman’s brain. And, because women aren’t out of control on testosterone, they find it easier to evaluate whether a man is potentially the right partner. Dirty, dirty boys! Despite years of cajoling from the girls and all the cosmetics firms spending hundreds of thousands of naira to persuade them to use their grooming products, men still spend less than 15 minutes in the bathroom each morning. But, don’t despair! This trend is set to change—a recent Mintel survey found that the under-24 age group are now more likely to spend up to an hour making the effort to look and smell good.

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5 Questions Will Determine If He Is Right for You

Truly no relationship is perfect, but some signs can help you know if he is the guy you should spend the rest of your life with. So ask yourself the following five questions about your partner.

1. Quitter or Keeper?

If your man lets you walk away without any fight, then it could only mean two things: either he was never invested or he knows deep down that you are too good for him. Your first real fight will determine if he is a quitter or a keeper. Are you the one who is always apologizing or fixing things when clearly your partner is in the wrong? If yes, then you are with someone who has no desire to help nurture the relationship. This person does not have much self-value and is definitely not the one for you.

2. Is He Judgmental?

Does your other half frequently criticize you? Do you have to act differently around him than you do with your friends and family? If the answer is yes to any of these questions, you need to ask yourself whether you really want to spend your life that way. You deserve to have a guy by your side who accepts you and loves you for who you are. One of the biggest signs that he is not the one is that you feel like you are being judged all the time. If you feel like you cannot be yourself or he is judging you when you are being yourself, then he is not the one. The right guy will never judge you.

3. Are You Being Lied To?

If he lies to you, even if it is about something seemingly insignificant like where he has been, where he is going or who he has been hanging out with, then you need to end your relationship, regardless of how much you like him. These sorts of lies are hurtful and are a big clue of what is coming later on. You would not want to be with a compulsive liar, would you?

4. What Does Your Instinct Say?

You and your loved one may seem perfect on paper, but if your instincts are telling you that he is not the one for you, you got to listen and trust your gut feeling. At the end of the day, the most significant relationship you can have is with yourself; if your inner voice is not a fan of your man, then know that he is not the right guy. If he were, your instincts would have told you.

5. How Do You Feel When He Is Around?

A healthy relationship fosters inner calm and confidence and makes you feel comfortable and wanted. Although no relationship rids us of all our insecurities and concerns, a healthy relationship should not add to them either. Of course, it is lonely when he avoids you, but if you also feel lonely when you are with him, this means he is incapable of letting you in. If something does not feel right with your guy or if being around him makes you doubt yourself, he is probably not right for you.

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5 Signs She Is Not the One for You

Fallen in love and don’t know whether she is the one meant for you? Can’t judge whether you can spend the rest of your life with her? If so, then this article will sum up 5 signs you must look for before proposing the girl you love.

1. It’s Difficult to Keep the Conversation Going

If you think that you and your partner can’t go on talking for hours and get bored easily, then there are chances that you might struggle in the future. Having things in common to talk about is critical so that there is a connection between you two. Awkward silences, even after spending extensive time together, are a big no-no!

2. You End Up Thinking About Others More

There are times in a relationship when men lose focus on their partners and start thinking about other girls. However, if you often find yourself thinking about how life would be with some other woman, it means you have got less than a perfect relationship. True love is when you have her and only HER on your mind all the time and can’t imagine somebody other than her in your life. If this is not the case, your relationship should be ended.

3. You Get Uncomfortable When It Comes to Settling Down with Her

You have been spending years together, but when it comes to settling down with her, do you become uneasy and anxious? If this is the case, then the truth is you that don’t feel for her strong enough to spend your entire life with her. She isn’t the one who can live with you in your house, share your bedroom, share your bed, and in short have a major share in your life. Thus, it is better to do both of you a favor and part ways as soon as possible because the longer you delay, the harder it will be for her.

4. You Actually Aren’t What You Are in Front of Her

If your friends complain that you aren’t yourself in her presence, take their advice. Living in a relationship where you have to act to be someone else could be very challenging, and these types of relationships do not last long. As soon as your friends criticize you of your behavior in front of her, notice it and if you think this is the case, it is time to say goodbye to each other forever.

5. You Are Always the One Initiating the Conversation

It doesn’t matter who messages first, but if you are always the one who starts talking and makes plans for a date, then the future of such a relationship isn’t bright. If your girl loves you equally, then she will want to talk to you, meet you, and spend time with you as much as you want to. However, if there is no such sign from her, you should break up with her.

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10 deadly phrases that can kill relationship

If you’re married or in a long-term relationship, you should leave some things unsaid. Words are arrows; you might end up hitting the wrong target, so be extra careful at where you aim.
Here, we have summed up some statements and phrases that marriage therapists consider deadly to your relationship. Strike them off of your vocab list. The sooner you do that, the better in terms of your relationship.

1.“When are you going to do those dishes? Don’t just leave them there!”
The dishes are a sort of place holder for loads of things; you’ll see them lying around often. But still, using accusatory terms for your partner like you ‘never’ do the dishes or you ‘always’ leave them lying there is ending it the same way every time, with you and your partner being in a heated argument.
Instead, accept readily the fact that we all forget such little things in life every now and then. Give your partner some leniency when they neglect some duties so you do not end up accusing them of things they do not even deserve.
2.“You are acting just like your mother.”
When in an argument, just focus on your partner and yourself. Comparing your partner to your in-laws isn’t fair. It diverts the topic from your problem at hand.
Bringing in outsiders in personal matters isn’t a pretty sight no matter the nature of your relationship. It’s symbolic of your inability to tackle the issue with the end result that you thrust it on someone outside your relationship. Everyone deserves benefit of the doubt.
3.“You consider yourself better than everyone.”
Never give wrong notions to your partner. You can never really know what someone’s thinking or feeling at what moment, so keep your assumptions to yourself, as said by Becky Whetstone, a marriage and family therapist in Little Rock, Arkansas.
“These statements are aggravating because your spouse knows that what you are accusing them of is not true,” she said. “What you are saying suggests you do not think very highly of your S.O. It is a double dose of pain in one sentence.” Such lines make you come off as spiteful and conceited, believe it or not.
4.“Do I look pretty?”
‘Questions about weight or changes in looks are the “oldest grenades in the marriage script,”’ said Robyn Wahlgast, a dating and relationship coach for women. You marry someone when they were all young and beautiful but then, time and age came into the mix like frosting on a cake – quick and sudden and silent – so is it their fault that you should criticize them for becoming this way?
What you have to keep in mind here is that beauty fades, personality does not. And it was the person’s heart and behavior etc. that made you fall for them hard enough to end up being with them, is it not? Therefore, do not overlook the fact that their physical beauty is just transitory.
5.“I think you’ve put on some weight.”
Blunt, negative remarks to your spouse about his or her appearance are out of line. If you notice that your partner is gaining weight, be constructive about it and help them in the process of getting back in shape and being healthy again, instead of being extremely critical about them and making them fall into depression.
6.“You are terrible at what you do…”
Telling your partner they are not good enough at what they do; at being a parent or the sole earner of the house or as a lover etc. is just plain wrong. It sounds crueller to them then you intend it to be. ‘Put-downs centered around your spouse’s family or occupational roles are particularly cruel’, said M. Gary Neuman, a psychotherapist based in Miami Beach, Florida. They breed not only seeds of hostility but also of racism and prejudice… even though it might be unintended.
“Negative statements about our self-identities are devastating,” he said. “These roles are so important and tender. When they are questioned, we feel completely torn down. It becomes hard to forget statements like this.” It shows your lack of appreciation on your partner’s side and to the extent of effort they put into being what they are, be it a parent or a breadwinner or lover.
7.“I really hate it when you do that…”(said in public, especially around friends and family).
‘Putting your spouse down in front of others is a huge no-no in a relationship’ said Whetstone. It makes them feel humiliated in front of others – others who know them – and by their own partner, not any outsider.
True love, respect and appreciation demands wholeheartedly that you defend your partner no matter what – especially when it gets rough. They count on you most of the time to defend them so if you fail to do that, how do you think that would make them feel? Sure, you do not have to like each and everything your spouse does. But nonetheless, that does not, in any way, give you the right to just negate whatever they did or said in front of people, you know? You have to stay on each others’ team no matter what because it’s you both up against the world.
8.“I do not even know him that well… just someone from work, nothing serious.”
Forming slight infatuations and crushes etc. for someone other than your partner is something that happens to at least one or both the people involved in a relationship at some point; and that is okay. You cannot stop the way your feelings are born, can you?
“It’s almost inevitable that you or your partner will develop a small, innocent crush on someone at some point during your marriage. If that happens, be upfront about it. Don’t try to sweep it under the rug with a statement that minimizes your feelings,” said Wahlgast.
Having committed to one person does not limit you to feel other things for the first time. It’s just that when you do feel them, let your partner in on them so that there can be no misconceptions.
“The best way to neutralize the potential destructiveness of your crush is to briefly and simply acknowledge it to your spouse,” she said. “Try saying to your husband, ‘I know it sounds ridiculous, but I’ve a bit of a crush on that new consultant. He’s so funny — his sense of humor reminds me of yours.’”
Though it may be an uncomfortable subject to broach, ultimately, Wahlgast said being transparent about your feelings “will create more openness with your partner. You will each feel more comfortable bringing up other taboo subjects in a kind and respectful way.” That wall of awkwardness will come tumbling down swiftly between you two with time as you keep sharing stuff like this.
9.“Stop feeling like that.”
That’s like telling a person about to commit suicide to not do it – will that actually stop them? No, right?
Whatever your partner’s feeling is real, it means something to them; that doesn’t make it any less surreal to them.
Everyone amongst us has the right to feel. It’s a part of who we are, the type of feelings we harbor. So in a sense, telling your spouse to not feel what they are feeling is indirectly telling them to not be who they are…a huge turn-off in any relationship.
10“You don’t need to wait up for me.”
“This seemingly innocent remark suggests you are not going to bed at the same time, a habit that can be damaging to your relationship”, said Wahlgast.
“You should view shared bedtime as a way to strengthen your connection with your partner — it’s a powerful form of physical intimacy, with or without sex,” she said. “Saying OK to separate bedtimes enables behaviors that destroy intimacy, such as solitary porn-watching and flirty messaging with friends or co-workers.”

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How to Keep an Erection Up For Longer in 20 Ways

Having a hard time trying to get an erection or keeping it up? Use these 20 tips on how to keep an erection up and you’ll stay high all the time.
An erection is a funny thing.

When it stays hard, you feel great about yourself.
But when it goes limp, no matter how hard you try, it can be the cause for some serious psychological concern.
If you’re not really suffering from any medical conditions and still have a hard time keeping it hard, there are ways to keep it up and raring to go when you need it most.
How to keep an erection longer
Almost all the time, an erection is all in your head.
And if it’s in your head, these tips will definitely help you.
First of all, do you get an erection when you feel horny?
If you are able to get an erection when you’re all alone, you’re definitely all good down there and just need to learn to relax when you’re with a woman.
Why guys suffer from a limp erection
There are many reasons behind why you may be having trouble getting an erection with your partner. Your woman may assume it’s because you don’t find her attractive anymore, but almost always that’s never the case.
Here are a few reasons behind why you may be having a difficult time keeping an erection up.
#1 You’re bored of the routine. After a few years, it’s easy to find the whole game of $ex monotonous even if you have a very attractive partner.
#2 Condoms can numb you. Condoms can have a tight grip around your member and it can definitely affect your performance if you’re not comfortable with it. Use thinner condoms if you must, but don’t avoid using it unless you and your partner are committed only to each other.
#3 Overexcitement can make you lose your erection. Sometimes, you may be really aroused and that can in turn kill your hard on! It’s weird, but overexcitement and adrenalin can actually make you feel weak and jittery.
#4 Pills can make you go limp. Several painkillers and other heavy medication almost always makes you numb down there. If you’re having a hard time performing when you’re ill, don’t blame yourself for it.
#5 You’re scared of going limp again. This is actually the biggest reason why so many men suffer from a limp erection. Psychological damage can do more harm than physical damage.
#6 Pressure. This is especially true if you’re stressing on giving your girl a good time or trying to get your woman pregnant.
#7 You’re bored of life. When you’re not enthusiastic about your life or if you’re depressed, it would be a miracle if you can actually have a hard erection!
#8 You don’t have a good lifestyle. Do you eat well and sleep well? Healthy lifestyle habits can impact your $ex drive and your performance by a large extent.
How to get an erection and keep it up for as long as you want
A limp erection can destroy a relationship or complicate it if it’s a repetitive occurrence. Your girlfriend would assume you don’t find her attractive anymore. Your limpy would leave you frustrated and pissed off. And both of you would just start getting annoyed with each other for no reason.
But there’s a happy way to go around this and make sure you get an erection and keep it for a long time. Just use these 20 tips on how to keep an erection up and it’ll definitely make a difference in your life in a couple of weeks.
#1 Talk about your fantasies. Distract yourself from your little head and use your big head in bed. Indulging in dirty talk and fantasies can help reignite the pleasure of $ex for both of you.
#2 Get kinky. Speak about your secret fantasies and fetishes with each other and indulge in them. Sometimes, all you need to bring your little guy up is a whole new $exual experience!
#3 Be comfortable in bed. Don’t carry your own weight on your arms for too long when you’re on top of her. Feel relaxed and avoid any scenarios that bother you like sweating too much, overeating before $ex or having $ex when you’re too tired.
#4 Get innovative. Too much of a good thing can get boring. Your girl may be the $exiest thing alive, but unless you create new ways to enjoy each other in bed, one of you may get bored which will eventually lead to you feeling less satisfied and less horny.
#5 Take time, don’t rush in. This is something most guys don’t know and don’t care to know. Foreplay always helps the guy hold on longer. You may think it’s pointless, but by indulging in foreplay for 15 minutes before penetration, your little guy would get more time to warm himself up for the act. Just don’t think about your erection until you have to penetrate her. And when it’s time, you can rest assured that he’ll be ready.
#6 Don’t concentrate on your little head. Instead, just focus on satisfying and pleasuring your partner. When you spend too much time pondering over over how erect you are, you’d kill the fun which will in turn kill your erection.
#7 Talk about it with your partner. When you can’t hold on to a long erection, it’ll definitely leave both of you upset. Learn to talk about it and reassure each other. Always ensure that bad $ex is not getting in the way of good love.
#8 Breathe. Breathe deeply in the mornings. It helps increase the oxygen in your blood flow and also calm you down when you’re stressed.
#9 Work out and look $exy. Better yet, start working out. A good cardio workout makes you feel fit and healthy, and it greatly improves your flexibility and blood circulation. When you look good, you’d feel alive down there. And the increased blood circulation would ensure that your boneless buddy would be upright and hard for a long time.
#10 Quit smoking if you can. Smoking destroys your lungs which in turn affect the amount of oxygen your lungs can absorb, which increases the fatigue in your muscles and leaves you tired all the time. The more oxygen in your body, the easier it will be for that all important muscle to function down there.
#11 Don’t masturbate too often. Masturbation can be good to control the problem of premature ejaculation, but it’s not good if you want to keep it hard for a long time.
#12 Party. Go out, meet people and have fun every day. When you have an active lifestyle, your body will come back alive because it would be loaded with happy hormones that get activated when you interact with others.
#13 Flirt with others. The longer a man stays away from flirting, the more his testosterone drops. Keep your libido on a high by indulging in a bit of flirty talk now and then and you’ll always enjoy $ex.
#14 Don’t change positions too often in bed. You may have heard that changing positions can be more fun. But by doing that, you’ll end up worrying too much about whether your member will continue to stay erect during each penetration and end up feeling more stressed.
#15 Stop worrying about the last time. Well, yeah, you had a hard time having a hard time the last time. But guess what, this is not last time. You can’t expect $ex to feel awesome every time. And when you do have a dry spell, don’t let that bother you. Just indulge in foreplay, have fun and stop thinking about what went wrong the last time.
#16 Shed your inhibitions. Love your body. Many men and women don’t like looking at their own bodies while having $ex because they think it looks ugly. If your physique bothers you, do something about it and get over it as soon as you possibly can.
#17 Remember the good times. Think of the first time you and your girl had $ex or made out. And talk about it in bed. There’s something so $exually exciting about first times that it’ll bring the excitement and $ex appeal back instantly.
#18 Don’t hurry it up. It may seem like a good idea to slip it in quickly as soon as you know it’s hard, and feel relieved that you were erect enough to penetrate her. But this routine will make you lose your confidence gradually and scare you away from slow and relaxed penetration over time.
#19 Don’t think only about penetration. Lovemaking isn’t all about putting it in. If you want to get it hard and keep it hard, you need to learn to understand that lovemaking isn’t just about the act of penetration. When you pay all the attention on penetration, it’s inevitable that you’ll end up putting a lot of pressure on yourself. Take time to please her in other ways and you’ll see how relaxed and sensual $ex really can be.
#20 Avoid $ex for a month. If nothing else works for you, this definitely should. Take $ex out of the calendar for an entire month, and that includes even seeing each other nak*d. But woo each other and arouse each other by going out often. Grind at parties, kiss in public and pet each other when you feel horny. By restricting $ex for a while, you can bring the arousal and curiosity back into bed. And that will definitely help you keep an erection up for as long as you have to perform.
Just use these 20 tips on how to keep an erection up and with time, your confidence would grow and your little guy would definitely be ready for a standing ovation and an encore every time he has to put on a show.

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12 Fun and $exy Ways to Please a Woman in Bed—Every Time!

Just what is it that makes a guy good in bed? Physical fitness? Dirty talk? These 12 tips to please a woman in bed are sure to keep her totally satisfied!
Often, guys think that concentrating on foreplay is a waste of time. Why bother when you can get to the good stuff right away, right?
Well, the truth is, if you are looking to make your woman extremely happy when it comes to $ex, you need to take your time, and make sure you warm her up before diving in.
How to please your woman and ensure she has a fantastic time in bed

Giving a woman a mind-blowing orgasm—whether you are in a loving relationship or not—is not only great for her, but is going to m
ake you feel pretty pleased with yourself. Give these awesome tricks a try to make foreplay and $ex a fantastic experience for you both.
#1 Take your time. Start off slowly—and we mean really slowly. Gently stroke her legs, right from the tips of her toes all the way up her thighs, kiss her legs, and, if you are brave, *and provided she is not super ticklish, of course* slowly suck her toes to leave her writhing in ecstasy and begging you for more.
#2 Ask her what she likes. No two women are the same, and communication is key to great $ex. Asking her what she likes, and what she wants you to do to her, is the easiest way of knowing where her pleasure zones are.
Be specific. Does she like you touching her lightly, or hard? Does she want you to go fast or slow? Make sure you are listening to what she is saying and make sure you make her feel comfortable enough to speak up, whether you do it before you start or in the moment.
Similarly, you can find out what her no-go areas are—for example, some women might love you pulling their hair, while others may find this painful and slightly aggressive—so make sure you find out before you do it.
Women appreciate a guy who cares about her pleasure during $ex, so even if she might be shy, encouraging her to let you know is sure to go down well.
#3 Let her know how much you love turning her on. If she feels like you are just going through the motions during foreplay, and are bored or simply doing it as a favor before the main event, it isn’t going to work.
She wants to feel as though you are enjoying it and getting into it, too, so make sure she knows how much you are enjoying yourself. That way, she can relax and enjoy it, too.
#4 Slow and steady wins the race. OK, so most men know that by stimulating the clitoris, you are going to give your woman some serious pleasure. However, it’s a sensitive little thing and by touching, licking, rubbing, or nibbling it too forcefully, you are likely to cause your woman some discomfort. Not exactly what you are going for!
Start off gently and pay it attention for a minute or so before moving somewhere else. This will build up tension, and with it, you can increase the pressure, back off again, and repeat, until she is crying out for you to keep going.
#5 Use the figure-eight trick. If you are giving her or*l $ex, the best way to drive her wild is by tracing your tongue in a figure eight around her clit. Alternate this with increasingly firmer licks, stimulating the clitoris itself. If you consistently vary the pressure and motion, it will drive her wild, for sure.
#6 Don’t neglect the less obvious erogenous zones. Some guys think by focusing on the vagina, they are working their magic. However, there are plenty of other ways to get your woman super turned on, and these should not be ignored.
Kissing her neck, nibbling her earlobes, and gently caressing, stroking, and nibbling on her n!pple$ are all areas which will make her totally horny, so make sure you pay attention to these, too!
#7 Experiment with different positions. Many women find it difficult to achieve orgasm through penetrative $ex alone… but that doesn’t mean it is impossible.
Have fun with $ex and try out loads of different positions. Penetrate her at different angles, take it slow, and ask her what feels good. You can also use your hands during intercourse to stimulate her clitoris to help her get there.
#8 Make it last. While it is actually a myth that girls long for hour-long $ex sessions each time, *they’ve got stuff to be getting on with, too, you know* you also don’t want to be winning races for your speed in the sack.
If you are worried about getting off too early, make sure you focus on how you feel before you are about to orgasm, and not right at the last minute, when there is pretty much nothing in the world that can stop you!
When you start feeling those more subtle sensations, slow it down, or switch positions to make sure you last a bit longer.
#9 Don’t forget the simple stuff. Many $exual encounters start off with a kiss, but 10 minutes later and all that mushy stuff is forgotten as you get down to it.
Women actually respond really well to great kissing. Intense, passionate kisses will make her feel more connected to you, so make sure you remember to keep it up throughout.
#10 Compliments, compliments. Make sure you give a girl compliments. You will see a dramatic change in how much she enjoys $ex.
Ladies need reassurance in the sack as much as the rest of us, so not only do you need to tell her how good she looks and how much she turns you on, you also need to let her know how great it is when she initiates $ex or goes to town on you.
Afterward, tell her how good she is in bed, or what she did that was awesome; knowing this will boost her confidence and make her feel more relaxed and willing to try new things next time.
#11 Take her out. If you want to really get your woman in the mood, then you’ve got to treat her right! You can’t just wander into the living room when she’s halfway through an episode of Girls and expect her to come running. Show her how much you care by wining and dining her, and she is sure to show her appreciation later.
#12 Toys, p*rn, and talking dirty. If you think that you and your lady are in a bit of a $exual rut, why not introduce some fun, new elements into the bedroom?
There is a huge range of $exual aids available nowadays, so why not talk about what you both might like? You don’t have to turn all Dorian Grey on her straightaway, but discussing what you want to try and shopping together can be a turn on in and of itself.
These 12 tips will make sure you not only please your woman each and every time, but that she knows how much you appreciate her, too—making for one seriously satisfied woman!

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13 Signs She Wants You In Her Bed

Girls want it just as much as guys do. But in order to get her in bed we must be diligent, listen intently, and pay close attention. Every moment is filled with verbal and nonverbal communication that you must decipher. Asking “Want to f—?” is not an option.

Let’s start by saying you’re at a bar, or some type of house party, and a girl approaches you. She’s hot, you’ve seen her around and know you’re both single. You start to talk with her and she’s easy to be with. Maybe you see her the next day and go see a movie or have dinner. The evening goes well, leads to another date, and pretty soon you begin to get that itch. You start thinking about her all day, even when she’s not around. You are pretty sure she likes you too, but are you two ready to take it all the way?
Or here’s another scenario: You are both at a party, very drunk and both hornier than a marching band. You’ve just met her but there is definitely some chemistry. She’s flirting and actually enjoyed your awful pick up lines, but you can’t take her home just yet. You have to be sure she’s really feeling it, before you get too forward too fast and end up getting rejected.
There are many different scenarios, and every girl has a different attitude and body language. Depending on how shy or how forward she is, her subtle clues may be harder to spot. But once you get to know her, and get past that initial nervousness, you should be able to notice these 13 signs that she wants you in her bed. Read on, my friend, and best of luck.

13. She Touches You

A handshake is one thing, or a hearty pat on the back. Those are mundane points on your body that get touched constantly. Your uncle, a coach or best buddy touches you there all the time, and a girl knows it. She wants to send you a signal and touch a spot that is more sensitive, and not used to the attention. If she’s forward she might grab your b*tt on the dance floor. Or a crotch grab means it’s on! A shy girl however may slip her fingers under your sleeve and gently squeeze you bicep, or swipe the hair out of your eyes, or touch your face or neck.

12. She Licks Her Lips

If things are getting hot and heavy you both may get a little fidgety. Just like having a high hand in a poker game, if she likes what she sees, she’ll start to show. Watch for a subtle but repeated toss of her hair. Maybe she keeps tugging on her necklace, or even sucking on its pendant. Her mouth is an erogenous zone, and it will feel good to be stroked in times like these. Licking of the lips draws attention to her mouth and all the fun you could have with it. And her tongue is anxious to lick something besides herself.

11. She Mentions The Act

So the conversation is rolling and suddenly you notice a pattern. Let’s say you’re discussing movies and she keeps bringing up the n*ughty scenes. She mentions certain actors she would love to sleep with and maybe one of them looks like you. Or you’re talking about music and she recites all the dirty lyrics to that Maroon 5 song that’s playing. Maybe she even serenades you, with the lyrics sung into your ear. She might even bring up the topic out of nowhere. Maybe you’ve had one date too many and she wants action. If she seems to have a one-track mind, then it’s time to capitalize.

10. She Wears Attractive Clothes

On that first date she wore a nice laid-back wool sweater. Then came a low V-neck blouse and jeans. Soon she’s wearing a skin-tight dress with high heels and tons of cleavage. When she walks away you are mesmerized by her awesome b*tt. Even the waiter has a hard time looking in her eyes when he takes her dinner order. Every dude in the restaurant is watching her. And the women are watching too, because they know what she’s up to. She took the Selena Gomez song to heart: She wants to look good for you, show how glad she is to be yours, and leave her mess a dress on the floor.

9. She Invites You Over

It’s getting late and it’s time for bed. You’ve both had a few drinks and don’t want it to end quite yet. Let’s say you drop her off and walk her up to the door. Even though it’s 1am she invites you inside for one more drink. Well, better hope you brought protection, because getting into the apartment is close to getting into the pants. This is the most obvious cue of them all. Just try not to get too excited. Even though she has stated the obvious, she will still want to surprise and impress you with her best matching lingerie, which she is surely wearing, for a little while longer.

8. She Gives You An Electrifying Kiss

This truth has been around since the first date ever. That final moment, the kiss at the end of the night will teach you more in one second than you’ve learned the rest of the night. You can kiss her and it’s like kissing a bronze statue. Or you can kiss her and be unsure, like there’s more work to be done. Or you can kiss her and the fireworks explode. She’s pulling you in, tongue flailing, wanting more and more and you’re doing the same. Your hands are both probing and maybe even a button or two comes undone. If that’s the case, it’s time to get busy.

7. She Gets You Alone

This is a subtle cue that girls do when you’re at a party. Say you are all talking amongst a group of friends and everybody is laughing at all of your jokes. Next thing you know, the girl drags you away from the crowd to have a private conversation one-on-one. This also might happen at a sporting event, when she takes you to the concourse where you can’t be distracted by the game. She wants you to play a different kind of game, one with her, where she is the hunter and you are the prey. She wants privacy so she can pounce. Better get going.

6. She Texts You

You have been on a couple dates with the girl and you two text now and then, but nothing too crazy. Then one night she starts blowing up your phone and the messages keep getting hotter and hotter. The once totally shy girl has found freedom behind her phone, and is texting about all the things she wants you to do to her body. Do not ignore these texts and assume they’re some kind of joke. She is not playing. She might be drunk and the inhibitions have dissolved. Or perhaps her roommate stole her phone and is texting the desires for her. Don’t hesitate. There’s nothing to lose. Get in the car and find her as soon as possible.

5. She Sits Close

Here is another situation where you aren’t alone but in a group setting, and she’s trying to give you a hint. Lets say it’s a house party, the conversation moves into the living room and there’s a large couch sitting there empty. Forget the gentleman stuff, you need to sit down first, and then she can decide how close she wants to sit with you. If she sits at the other end of the sofa then give up, it’s over. If she sits close, you’re doing well. If she sits so close that she is in physical contact with you, that’s even better. If she sits on top of you and does a lap dance, great, but she might be a little too crazy so be careful.

4. She Flatters You

Sometimes the old saying is true: You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. This girl is taking grandma’s advice and literally trying to flatter the pants off of you. It may start casually, like, “Nice shirt.” Then soon you are in a group setting and she’s bragging for you. Telling everyone about the great idea you had at work or how you set the curve on the final exam. She is using her manners to a point that it almost seems corny, but don’t fret. That’s just her way to get you to notice her and to let you know that you can do no wrong in her eyes.

3. She Makes Innuendo

This one is more rare, but it does happen. It’s a funny way to arouse interest when the girl might be too shy to speak bluntly. Let’s say it’s hot outside and you two go out for ice cream. She orders soft serve in a cone and proceeds to lick the treat slowly and adds a sensual sigh here and there. You’ve got something going on now. First of all, if that girl wasn’t into you she would have ordered that ice cream in a cup. Maybe you should ask her to taste yours. Or taste hers so she can see a nice licking visual to fantasize about. Then leave the parlor immediately because it’s go time.

2. She Reveals Skin

Here is another game that girls like to play. She will act insecure although she is the farthest thing from it. She knows she’s looking good and she wants to hear you say it. It’s called fishing for compliments. This girl is smoking hot with a nice round b*tt, a perfect chest and a stomach as flat as an ironing board. Then you’re sitting on the couch, she lifts up her shirt and says, “Look. My tummy looks flabby, doesn’t it?” Not at all. In fact, maybe you should touch her to feel its firmness. Maybe you should show her yours. And if that game continues, things will get intimate in a hurry.

1. She Seems Turned On

You know when a girl is turned on. You can sense it in her breath. Her breathing gets harder and she sighs with a smile. Maybe she blushes, or slightly sweats. She’s biting her lips. Saying, “Oh, God”, in a good way, about nearly everything. Maybe you noticed that her n!pple$ firmed up a few times over the course of dinner. She seems to be falling apart at the seams. Something has come over her and it’s time to ask the waiter for a check and get that girl in her bed. This is a state known clinically as super-duper-ready-to-go. A complete sensuality overload. She needs to get off before it’s too late.

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How to Approach a Girl You Don’t Know and Impress Her

Do you want to talk to a girl you don’t know? Here are 5 ways on how to approach a girl that will definitely help you make a great first impression.
Walking up to a girl you’ve never spoken to before is like taking a dip in icy water.
It makes you nervous.
Your heart starts beating faster than you can count.
And your stomach inches closer to your tongue with each step you take.
But as a guy, knowing how to approach a girl is one of the most important things to know in the dating world.
Now I’m not going to make this any more difficult that you already assume it to be.
Yes, talking to a girl who’s a stranger is not easy.
But then again, if you know just how to do it without appearing like you’re picking her up, you’ll realize just how easy the whole game can be.
How to approach a girl you don’t know
Forget pick up lines, forget bumping into her, and every other *smart* move you’ve heard.
I’ll teach you to keep it simple, and help you win her heart even before you say ‘hello’.
Here’s the only tip that matters and you need to remember it for the rest of your dating life. Always let the girl know you want to talk to her before you even talk to her. Don’t make the mistake of approaching a girl out of the blue and asking her out. It almost always never works, unless you’re a smooth talker with the gift of gab.

If you’re a regular joe who wants to turn into a chick magnet, just follow these steps and you’ll win her attention before you finish your drink!
Getting her attention
You need to let the girl know you’re going to approach her. So warm her up to that idea to begin with by using these steps.
#1 Glance at her. Look at her now and then just to let her know that you’re trying to catch her attention. Be sneaky and discreet, and always look away just as soon as she catches your eye. You’ll rouse her curiosity and that’ll force her to look at you now and then to see if you’re still watching her.
#2 The eye contact. Each time she looks at you, look at her and immediately look away sheepishly. Continue to look at her now and then, and once in a while, lock your gaze at her for a small fraction of a second and look away again. By doing this, you’re already building the $exual attraction. But if she doesn’t reciprocate here, she’s probably not interested in you.
#3 Appear awkward. If you’re with your friends, look at her now and then, but appear like your distracted and not able to focus on the conversation you’re having with your friends. By doing that, you’re making her see that she’s on your mind and you’re too distracted to focus on your friends. That’s subtle flattery!
#4 Smile at her. Exchange eye contact now and then, one or two times every minute and no more than that, and when you feel pretty courageous, flash a tiny smile from the corner of your lip for a second, and let her notice your smile. Don’t give her a big grin though, a malicious big grin at this stage will scare any girl away.
These moves are all about building the connection and letting her know you’re interested in her. And at the same time, it’ll also help you understand if she too is really interested in you. If she responds to your gestures similarly, it’s a sign that she’s interested in talking to you too.
But if she starts ignoring you at any point here, she’s probably not interested in you and you need to make your luck somewhere else.

How to start talking to the girl
Now that you’ve built the attraction and the chemistry, all you need to do is walk up to her and say something. Use these tips to approach her and start the right conversation.
#1 Waiting for the moment. Sometimes, all you need to do is wait for the girl to give you a chance to talk to her. If she’s really interested in you and wants to talk to you, she’d create enough opportunities for you to walk up to her. She could do this by walking to the ladies room alone, stepping away from her friends by answering a phone call, or even by just smiling at you and leaving the place.
It’s always easier to talk to a girl when she’s by herself. There are no distractions from her friends or awkward moments because she’s already expecting you to approach her.
#2 Picking her up from afar. Gesticulate. Use the right gestures to get her attention. This is tricky, but as long as you get the message across, it’ll still work as long as you do it confidently.
Look straight at her, and smile. Jerk your neck sideways just a little bit after you lock your eyes with her, and using your eyes, point her to the bar counter or some exit. Even if she doesn’t get it, you can walk up to the place you were pointing at by yourself, and she’ll know what you mean.
Not all girls may appreciate you gesticulating at her and asking her to walk up to you, but if you’ve built the chemistry from afar, she’d be more than happy to get away from her friends and give you a chance to talk to her.

#3 The group of girls. Walk up to her with your gaze fixed on her confidently. Walk right into the herd, but look straight at her and only her. Look at anyone else, and the envious friends would pounce on you with snide remarks because you didn’t pick them to flirt with.
“Hey… I really don’t mean to interrupt you girls, but could I speak with you for a minute? I just won’t be able to forgive myself if I left this place without getting to know you…”
Use any line you want and it’ll work as long as you say it firmly, but remember to make her feel special by saying something that reveals how badly you want to get to know her. And unless her friends seem to take your side by nudging her towards you or by smiling widely, completely avoid looking at them. You’d only be asking for trouble.
#4 Buy her a drink. This is something that can work very well at a bar, as long as you’ve already built the eye staring up and roused her interest. Buy her the same drink she’s already having, and ask the waiter to offer it to her. The waiter will probably drop a corny and grand message like “the gentleman sitting over there would like to offer you this drink…”
When she accepts the drink and looks towards you smiling, that’s your cue. Don’t wait any longer or she’ll think you’re a coward. But if you buy her a drink without building the connection first, you’ll just come off as a creepy guy.
#5 A twosome. If there are just two girls, walk right up to them while staring at the girl you like. If the girl’s interested in you too, her friend will slip away quietly with an excuse. But even if the friend decides to stay, just introduce yourself and say something similar to the line used in #3. But this time, include the girl’s friend in your conversation and make her feel good about herself too. But don’t forget to keep the focus on the girl you like!
Keep these conversation moves in mind and it’ll definitely do you good. But if you want to make sure it works all the time, build the tension and the mystery first with your glances and your eye contact. You’ll always end up impressing the girl even before you approach her.
Use these tips on how to approach a girl you don’t know and with a few attempts, you’ll have no trouble walking up to any girl you like and impressing her within minutes of making eye contact with her!

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20 Moves to Last Longer During $ex without Any Difficulty

Are you having a hard time holding on while having $ex? Here are 20 everyday tips, $ex tips and foreplay tips to hold that orgasm back for longer.
For a girl, multiple orgasms are a fun thing to experience.

But when you’re a guy, ejaculating too soon can spell doom to your $ex life.
As a guy, premature ejaculation can leave you feeling frustrated, dejected, and arm-twist you into losing all your confidence when it comes to matters of the bedroom.
It’s unfortunate that you have to deal with this, but fret not, because there are really fun ways to learn to last longer in bed.
All it takes is a bit of effort and a bit of time.
How to last longer during $ex
If you want to last longer during $ex and you’re not really suffering from a medical condition, then these tips will definitely help you last a lot longer. After all, you need to remember that the experience of $ex is more in the head than in between your legs.
If you feel confident about your $exual capabilities, you’d definitely be able to perform better with your woman.
Don’t let premature ejaculation get in the way of a great $ex life. Instead, learn to get better at controlling your ejaculation and everything will feel just fine.
And here’s a startup tip for you, if you ever end up ejaculating within a few minutes, don’t hate yourself for it. Lie back and rest for a half an hour or so. You’ll be ready by then and raring to go, and you’ll definitely last a lot longer and satisfy her better too!
Everyday tips to have $ex for longer
Here are a few everyday tips that can help you enjoy better and longer $ex over time. Just like a long term diet and workout plan, these everyday tips won’t help you tonight, but they’ll definitely make you a $ex god potential over time.
#1 Masturbate regularly. If you haven’t ejaculated for a long time, it’ll be harder to hold on while having $ex. Spend some alone time with yourself at least a few times a week so you never let the horniness get out of hand!
#2 Controlled ejaculation. Now every guy masturbates now and then. But how often do you do it? If you have some time by yourself, get busy with the little guy, but don’t rush it. Spend at least an hour watching p*rn or thinking n*ughty while masturbating.
But each time you’re on the verge of ejaculating, hold yourself back and think about something else. The more you practice holding back during masturbation, the better you’d get at controlling your ejaculation.
#3 Speak to your doctor. If you’re having a really difficult time making $ex last, perhaps you need to speak with your doctor for an immediate temporary cure. Your doctor can prescribe a few pills for you, which can help you last longer while you work on the other techniques at the same time.
#4 Workout and kegels. Workout everyday and you’ll feel a lot better in no time. Working out improves your blood flow and makes you feel fitter. And even if you lose an erection because you shot the gun too soon, you’ll be ready again in no time.
Another alternative are kegel exercises. Kegel exercises are a set of exercises that focus on the pelvic muscles. When you contract and relax your muscles around your pelvis, the pubococcygeus muscle of your pelvis get stronger over time. And that helps you get rock hard erections, and gives you better control of your ejaculations.
#5 Communication. Don’t let your early explosions frustrate you. After all, you’re not intentionally trying to finish yourself off early. Speak to your lover and help each other understand what’s going on in both of your minds.
$exual tips to last longer during $ex
You’ve read about how to hold on your hard on for longer using the everyday tips. But now we go straight into the act. So what can you do while having $ex to avoid an early ejaculation? Find out here.
#1 Overexcitement. Avoid aggressive or wild angry $ex. When you lose control of your erection, that’s when you’d lose the erection completely. Try to indulge in calm, slow and romantic $ex. By avoiding fast and aggressive $ex, you’d be able to last longer because you won’t experience a sudden burst of $exual energy in an instant.
#2 Take control of $ex. When two people have $ex, the one on top is usually in control of the movements. So try to spend more time on top. When you’re on top, you can slow down or stop moving completely when you feel like you’re on the verge of ejaculating. By holding back when you feel like ejaculating, you can last a lot longer because you’re in control of the $ex.
#3 Shift your weight. When you’re on top of your girl and feel like you’re going to blow out, place your forearms on either side of her and shift your body weight onto your arms. Stop moving in and out and just wait for your little guy to feel relaxed again. You’ll be able to push ahead within a few seconds.
#4 Be in sync with your partner. This is where your lover can help you. If she ever feels you throbbing when you’re inside of her, tell her to avoid moving too aggressively *or even stop moving completely* so you can regain your control. At times, as hard as you try, you do need some help from your woman to make $ex last longer.
#5 Control the surrounding. Have $ex in a comfortable place where you won’t feel overexcited. Completely avoid anything that’s too exciting like public $ex or anything else that turns you on a lot. If you feel most relaxed in your bed, stick to the bedroom until you get better control of your orgasms.
#6 Don’t change your pace too often. Changing the pace of the to and fro motion when you’re inside her feels good for both of you. But when you do that, you’d also end up ejaculating faster because the change in pace makes you more horny.
#7 In and out. Some couples love taking the little guy out of the lady garage often and putting him back in while having $ex. They do this in p*rn movies all the time too.
For many guys, taking the tool out often and reinserting it while having $ex helps them stay hard for a lot longer. But at the same time, it’ll make some guys orgasm a lot faster. Find out what works for you and use it to your benefit.

#8 Shallow moves. Once you’ve penetrated your girl, don’t go ramming her like you’re a p*rn star on heat. Go shallow and easy. Move just a few inches in and out of her unless you’re feeling very confident, because longer and deeper moves of the shaft will excite your little guy a lot faster.
#9 Wear a condom. It numbs most guys down there. Don’t opt for the ultrathin condoms. Instead, opt for ones that’ll help prevent you from ejaculating faster by numbing you down there.
#10 Don’t obsess about your orgasm. One of the biggest reasons why so many guys suffer from this on a regular basis is because they spend so much time obsessing over this little problem of theirs.
These things happen to everyone all the time. And you’ll definitely get over it sometime soon. So until then, ignore the thought of premature ejaculation before or during $ex by keeping your mind occupied elsewhere.
#11 Control your breathing. Breathing plays a big part in controlling your ejaculation. If you’re on the verge of ejaculation and want to hold it back, focus on your breathing and try to release your breath slowly through your mouth in a controlled manner when you’re inside her.
This is hard to explain in a sentence without going into details, but trust me, just breathe out through your mouth slowly and you’ll see how it works.
Ways to prepare yourself for longer $ex before penetration
Here are four things you can do to prepare yourself for longer $ex, when you’re in the act but haven’t penetrated her yet.
#1 Be vocal. Your woman may assume you won’t be able to last long and may try to finish up really fast. But if you feel like having $ex for longer, let your partner know about it. Both of you should take it slow and easy, and communicate at the same time about when to stop moving or when to slow down further. By doing this, it’ll help you last longer and bring both of you closer.
#2 Longer foreplay. Always spend more time on foreplay. By getting straight into the act immediately, the excitement and $exual tension may build up too fast which could end up overexciting you and leading to faster ejaculations.
#3 Try new $ex positions. Some $ex positions will stimulate you faster and make you orgasm really fast, while some positions can help you last a lot longer. The missionary position is a safe one, but a few unconventional positions may just help you better. But you’ll never know what works until you try.
#4 Masturbate before $ex. Have a very quick quickie with yourself an hour or so before $ex. Be so quick about it that you hardly even notice a significant ejaculation. $ex isn’t a planned activity, so ejaculating an hour earlier may not be an easy thing to do all the time.
But if you and your girl have decided to make love later that night, slip into the bathroom in the morning or afternoon and finish yourself off. You’ll be sensitive and ready after a few hours, and you’ll be able to hold on a lot better too.
Yes, it’s true that premature ejaculation is frustrating and demeaning. But use these 20 tips on how to last longer during $ex and you may just be able to turn your life around and have a great $ex life with just a little effort!

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How to Compliment a Girl and Make Her Blush

Knowing how to compliment a girl is pretty important when you’re trying to make a lasting impression. After all, a compliment shows that you’ve noticed how nice a woman she really is.
There are many ways to compliment a girl, and they’re always going to sound nice.
Wouldn’t you appreciate it if you took a lot of time to dress well and your date complimented you on how nice you look?
It feels good, doesn’t it? Your date did notice the fact that you’ve cleaned up.
And just like that, girls love to be complimented too.
In fact, women love compliments a lot more than men do.
How to compliment a girl
One of the first things you should know about complimenting a girl is to be sincere.
Don’t just say something nice because you read it in a book or your friend texted you a few complimentary ques.
Be genuine when you compliment a girl, and if she does see the sincerity in your eyes, she’ll be more flattered and will appreciate your compliment.
If you’re just playing out rehearsed compliments, she would only feel uncomfortable and annoyed when she realizes you’re just trying to compliment her to get your way into her pants.
To compliment a girl, you need to understand the different ways you can do it, while flattering her at the same time.
Compliment a girl for how beautiful she looks
This is time tested and perfect all year round. You obviously know your date looks beautiful, or you wouldn’t be with her *yes, we know men are shallow*. So when you finally do meet her at the date, compliment her on how beautiful/cute/gorgeous/pretty she looks. How can you not appreciate such a wonderful woman when she’s taken so much of an effort to look cute as a button just for you?
Stare at her often
Stare at her often when you’re on a date with her. It’s one of the best compliments a guy can ever give a girl. This does come naturally when you’re smitten by a beautiful girl who’s out on a date with you, but remember this as one of those quiet compliments.
If you can’t help staring at a girl and getting lost in her eyes or her beauty, it just shows how happy you are to be with her. And yeah, you could also tell her how happy she makes you feel. That’s another great compliment for a girl.
Compliment her with words
One of the best ways in knowing how to compliment a girl is to do it with words. Not the spoken ones, the written ones.
Love stories and poems have been written by men to profess their love for their sweetheart. It would be really flattering if you could write a poem, but your girlfriend would definitely settle for something you’re capable of doing, and that’s sending a sweet text after the date or picking a beautiful card to profess your feelings for her.
Compliment her for her skills
Is she a ravishing karaoke singer or someone who knows her fine wine? Compliment her for that!
Most men assume girls don’t like to be complimented for anything other their appearance, but that’s just not true! As a matter of fact, women are so accustomed to being complimented only for their good looks that it doesn’t soften their heart as much as a character compliment could.
So the next time you’re out with your woman and she shows off one of her great skills, whatever it may be, compliment her if it awes you.

Compliment her femininity
Compliment her feminine side like kindness, her caring nature, the way she smiles and makes time stand still, the cute thing she does with her hair, or the way she fans herself when she’s feeling hot and the blushing awkward faces she makes when you compliment her.

Knowing how to compliment a girl for her femininity is such a beautiful way to acknowledge her beauty and her sweet ways without really talking about her physical attributes.
Compliment a girl with your chivalry
Men have always been acknowledged as the protectors. When you’re out on a date, make your date feel special and well taken care of. Pull her seat back for her, assist her whenever she needs assistance and pay attention to her every whim and fancy. Being chivalrous and ensuring that the girl with you is having a perfect time is one of the best ways to silently compliment the girl you’re with.
And you can rest assured on this, if you’re chivalrous and warm during the date, she’ll feel warm and fuzzy all throughout the date too!
Things to know before you compliment a girl
#1 If you’re ever confused about complimenting a girl, some of the best aspects to compliment a girl are her eyes, hair, lips, her fragrance and her voice. It’s safe, and yet, very personal. It’s hard for any girl to forget a compliment that involves these aspects.
#2 Don’t ever compliment her girlie parts. You may be tempted to say “you look so $exy” or “I love the way you fit that tee shirt”, but it’s just too physical, especially during the first date or two. You can always use those $exy lines once you’ve grown closer and she trusts you better.
#3 The best compliments are the spontaneous ones. To understand how to compliment a girl sincerely, you always need to remember this pointer. The very instant you lay eyes on her, what do you think? As long as it’s not overly $exual, it’s definitely going to be a truthful and sincere compliment.
Understand how to compliment a girl and use these ideas the next time you’re with the woman you like. It’ll definitely make her feel special, loved and a lot happier.

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15 Signs To Know Your Current Girlfriend Is Your Future Wife

1. She loves bragging about you. To her friends, coworkers, everyone. Because she’s proud of you and thinks you are the coolest person she’s ever met. Her friends and roommates and coworkers know every little thing about you before you even meet them. You’re basically like a boy band she’s obsessed with that she also gets to date.
2. You can go on trips together and not fight constantly. If you can survive being in a nightmare spa resort full of screaming children, no clean towels, and weak drinks with old pineapple on the rim without fighting constantly, you have something pretty amazing.
3. You still catch her checking you out. For no reason, really. She just thinks you are the hottest human always and is happy to let you know.

4. You share the same values. You both want the same type of relationship, you know where you both stand on having children, and your goals for the future are the same. If you want to work until
you’re 90, so does she. If you want to retire early and eat only pudding for the rest of your life, she’s cool with that.
5. She cares how your friends are doing. She knows all your friends by name and is genuinely invested in whether or not your roommate Kate gets together with that guy she likes because they would be so cute together and she wants her to be happy.
6. You hear your friends complain about their significant others and you can’t really relate. Just keep it to yourself that you and your girlfriend have fun staring at blank walls and she’s incredibly supportive and thoughtful and compassionate. Not the time to share that info.
7. She’s your biggest supporter. She believes you can do things even you’re not sure you can do because she has the utmost faith and confidence in you even at your lowest moments because she believes you are magic.
8. You feel comfortable planning things way, way in the future. You can buy concert tickets or book a vacation in advance without worrying if she’s going to break up with you or you’re going to break up with her before then because you trust her completely and she’s become such a part of you that your future together seems as certain as anything.
9. She makes sacrifices for you and you do the same for her. And she thinks nothing of it because she genuinely enjoys making sure you’re happy and you feel the same way about her.
10. She doesn’t try to change you. She knows every messed up, weirdo thing you do when you sleep and when you’re awake and when you’re tired and when you’re cranky, and she’s OK with all of it in a way that you weren’t sure anyone ever would be. Because you have a lot of weirdo stuff.

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5 Reasons You Must Keep Your Relationships Off Social Media

In aspects of information and spreading them with ease and within the quickest time possible, social media has to be one of the strongest tools out in the world today.
But more often, people make a mistake in aspects of what should go out on these social platforms as they go about spilling details of what should be a private affair between them and their partners. The result of this is often a break up in the relationships or equally similar issues that could have been better handled or avoided altogether if they remained as private as they ought to be.
Many individuals are lost today because they don’t know when to keep quiet or keep their private affairs off public glare. But they will be fine in the end. They will be fine because they will get everything they are looking for when they get bitten by the fangs of social media.
A lot of people will never agree that their affairs ought to be kept out of the public, and so this is bound to generate a bit of debate here and there.
But while you deliberate on whether to keep yours private or in full glare of the public, below are five reasons why social media could be harmful to your relationships today:

1. It Is Your Private Life –

Hence, you need to keep it exactly as private as it should be. You see, people have a natural tendency to jump to conclusions especially in matters that concern two lovers, and the more you put out pictures, videos and innuendoes, the more likely you help deduce the actual status of the affair. And bear in mind that things will not always be rosy in the affair, so it is more advisable to keep things under wraps.

2. Two Is Just Right –

An ideal relationship is made for two persons and nothing more. Anything more than that makes it more of a public affair than it is private. And you really do not want the dramas that come with the fame, because, trust me it is not something anyone can deal with when the heat goes up.

3. Jealousy Can Ruin Everything –

Putting your personal life and relationships out there gives everyone the power to access and assess the relationship, a situation which is bound to breed envy and jealousy from outsiders, especially admirers. You sure don’t want this happening to your relationship.

4. You Don’t Know What Tomorrow Holds –

A split up is not always pre-planned. Something and anything can lead to a break up and the fact that the entire world already knows you and your partner are in a relationship makes it messier going separate ways. Hence, it is advised that people keep their relationships off the internet.

5. Publicity Is Bad For Love And Relationships –

As unusual as this sounds, the media is actually like poison for many a healthy relationship today. This is the reason many prefer their private stuff well tucked away from the media. If in doubt, check your favourite celebrities today and see how far the media has affected their love affairs.
Publicity is amazing for showbusiness but terribly bad for our private lives.
In this light, it is also imperative to keep ones romantic affairs off the view of everyone on social media. Some things are meant to not be observed and seen by all, intimate relationships are one of these things.

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10 Marriage Tips Every Wife Needs To Learn

Here you go…
1. Respect your husband
Notice how it doesn’t say “Respect your husband if he has earned it.” A man’s greatest need in this world is to be respected, and the person he desires that respect from the most is his wife. The trap that we’ve all been ensnared by is that they only deserve our respect when they earn it. Yes, we want our husbands to make decisions that will ultimately garner our respect, but the truth is that your husband is a human being. A human being who makes mistakes. This is the man that YOU have chosen to walk alongside you for the rest of your life, and to lead your family and he needs to be respected for that quality alone.
Take it from me – when respect is given even when he doesn’t deserve it, it will motivate him to earn it. That doesn’t mean you pretend that his choices are good ones when they aren’t. Things like that still need to be communicated, but you can flesh out your differences WITH RESPECT. It makes all the difference in the world to him.
2. Guard your heart
The grass is not greener on the other side. Do not believe the lie that with a slimmer figure, a higher salary, a faster car, or a bigger house, you will be a happier woman. The world is full of things and people that will serve as reminders that you don’t have the best of the best, but it’s simply not true. Live the life you’ve been blessed with, and BE THANKFUL. I get that we all have struggles, and there are even times when I would love 1,000 more square feet of house to live in, but square feet is not fulfilling – relationships are. Guard your heart from things and people that will try to convince you that your life or your husband is not good enough. There will always be bigger, faster, stronger, or shinier – but you’ll never be satisfied with more until you’re fulfilled with what you have now.
3. God, husband, kids … in that order
I know this isn’t a popular philosophy, especially among mothers, but hear me out. It’s no secret that my faith is of utmost importance, so God comes first in my life no matter what. But regardless of your belief system, your husband should come before your kids. Now unless you’re married to someone who is abusive (in which case, I urge you to seek help beyond what my article can give you), no man in his right mind would ask you to put your kids aside to serve his every need while neglecting them. That’s not what this means.

When you board an airplane, the flight attendants are required to go over emergency preparedness prior to takeoff. When explaining the part about how to operate the oxygen mask, passengers are instructed to first put the mask on themselves before putting it on their small child. Is that because they think you are more important than your kids? Absolutely not. But you cannot effectively help your child if you can’t breathe yourself. The same holds true with marriage and parenting. You cannot effectively parent your children if your marriage is falling apart. Take it from me – I tried. There will also come a time when your kids will leave the house to pursue their dreams as adults. If you have not cultivated a lasting relationship with your spouse, you will have both empty nests and empty hearts.
4. Forgive
No one is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. If you make forgiveness a habit – for everything from major mistakes to little annoyances (every day, I have to forgive my husband for leaving the wet towel on the bathroom counter) – you will keep resentment from growing.
5. Over-communicate
I used to have a bad habit of not speaking my feelings. I played the standard “You should know why I’m mad” game, and that’s just downright unfair. Men are not wired like women, and they DON’T always know that they’ve been insensitive. I’m still growing in this area, and there are often times when my husband has to pry something out of me, but I’m trying to remember that I need to just communicate how I feel.
6. Schedule a regular date night
This one isn’t new, but it’s very important. Never stop dating your spouse. Even if you can’t afford dinner and a movie (which we seldom can), spending some regular one-on-one time with your spouse is essential. Don’t talk about bills, or schedules, or the kids. Frankie and I often daydream about our future, or plan our dream vacation. We connect emotionally and often learn something new about each other – even after four years.
7. Never say the “D Word.”
If you’re gonna say it, you better mean it. Plain and simple, threatening divorce is not fighting fair. I did this a lot in my . marriages. I’m not proud of it, but I learned better. I was hurting deeply, and I wanted to hurt back, but it never helped me feel better.
8. Learn his love language
Everyone has a love language. The way you perceive love is often different from the way your spouse perceives love. Does he like words of affirmation, or does he respond better when you give him gifts? Whatever his love language is – learn it and USE IT.
9. Never talk negatively about him
I learned this lesson the hard way too. If you’re going through a difficult time in your marriage and you need advice, see a counselor. Family counseling is a great tool, but try to remember that your family members and friends are not the most objective people to give advice. The argument they are hearing is one-sided and they often build up negative feelings toward your spouse, which usually doesn’t subside once you and your husband have gotten past it. Protect his image with those that you’re close with and seek help from those that can actually be objective. News flash, ladies – your mother cannot be objective!
10. Choose to love
There are times in a marriage that you may wake up and not feel in love anymore. Choose to love anyway. There are times when you may not be attracted to your husband anymore. Choose to love anyway. Marriage is a commitment. In sickness and health, in good times and in bad. Those vows are sacred. They don’t say “if you have bad times.” They say “in good times AND in bad,” implying that there WILL be bad times. It’s inevitable. So choose to love anyway. He’s worth it.

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These 5 Secret Steps Will Lead You To Finding Your Soulmate

Often times, people find it hard to love again after a terrible heartbreak. It’s usually advised to take a short break to cry over the loss, and then bounce back to life. Just in case your relationship ended with last year, it’s time to start off a new series of love. Most of us began last year with the expectation of either finding our soulmate or getting married to the one we most love. But somehow, our romantic hopes got dashed due to reasons we may not be able to explain. Do not risk losing another chance as the new year is already two months gone. It is about time to find a soulmate in 2016. You don’t have worry your cute head about how everything will turn out – this article will guide you.

1. Find Yourself

Before you find a soulmate, you should first find yourself. Finding one’s self takes a lot of patience and sensitivity. You need to think deep and ask yourself some questions only you can answer. Who am I? What do I want for myself? What are my dreams? What kind of man/woman will fit into my dreams? Once you get that sorted out, you are sure of a clearer picture of the qualities you are looking for in a soulmate.

2. Extend A Smile

Most relationship experts say that the best way(s) to get attention from the opposite sex is to always wear a smile – a sincere one. Smiling works like magic. Trust me, no one would ever love to be with a frowning face. Even psychologists say its unhealthy to be around people who usually carry long faces – starring at morose faces on regular basis can shorten one’s life span. Start a non-verbal conversation with a warm smile, greet everyone as possible and let the world feel your sweet aura.

3. Soul-Search Check

Most times, men and women fail to realize that there are specific traits and characteristics which can drive potential partners away. It could be rudeness, lose-tongue syndrome, bad temper, pessimism or even sheer lack of personal hygiene. Find out what yours is and work on it. That’s how to check if you are eligible for a soul search. Tackle your shortfalls so that when you eventually success in your strife they won’t ruin what you’ve worked so hard to achieve.

4. Give Out A Helping Hand

If you are opportuned to converse with elderly couple who have lived together for over 30 years, you will notice a trend. They will often times share touching stories of how one helped the other even without an intention to date each other. People get emotionally attached to someone who has helped them one way or the other. It could be by a simply geture of offering a piece of valuable advice, paying fare for someone, or even a shoulder to cry on.
It’s amazing to know how someone could be watching while you embark on such charitable duties. Or it may be your soul mate you are lending a helping hand to. You never can tell how you will meet that special someone you always wished to have.

5. Stay Focused

Telling a single person to stay focus often has been mistaken to mean focusing on the chances of finding that special someone. NO! Focus on your life and career, stay glued to your dream and aspirations. Humans are not animals who hook up with just anybody from the opposite sex, we are designed to fall in love with hard working and productive people. Most ladies would say they are more attracted to hardworking men because they sense an aura of responsibility around them. Focus on your job, commit yourself to get higher grades in college, do the best you can to stay on top and every other thing, with regards to finding a soulmate, will fall in place without you necessarily putting too much effort to make it happen.

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10 Ways Only The Right Person Will Love You

Here are ten ways you can tell that you have found someone who really knows how to love you.
1. They will love you without condition.
Real love comes without any expectations. You don’t have anything to prove, nothing to win. Yes, at the beginning of a love affair, you’re trying to entice and impress each other, but as time goes on there’s no need to perform in order to make love last.
2. They will listen — really listen.
This is a big one. Real listening means that you throw your own agenda out the window and really absorb what the person is saying, without judgment. It’s not always easy to do, but truly loving someone means being able to be there for them through thick and thin, and being a good, empathetic confidant.
3. They will love you for who you are, not an idealized version of what they want a partner to be.
The day I realized that my husband will never remember to do certain things without a reminder or two (or three), I felt my love deepen for him a little. It sounds counter-intuitive, but when I realized that I couldn’t change him — and just needed to find a way to work with who he was — I could appreciate all the things he could do for me and our family. It helps that he will happily do housework, but just can’t remember to do it on his own.
4. They will give you space.
At the beginning of a relationship, it’s normal to be inseparable, to want to do every last thing together. But there comes a point where each partner needs some space. When and how this happens varies from person to person and one relationship to another.
But since real love means letting your partner be his or herself, you need to respect your partner’s need for independence and the autonomy to sometimes do things without you.

5. They will fight for you.
When you’re having a down-and-out day, your partner will be the first one to remind you how incredibly awesome you are. Your partner will be your biggest defender against conflicts with others. They will remind you of the strength you forgot you had, and give you the fighting words when you’re too upset to find them yourself.
6. They will hang on during the storms.
Conflicts in relationships are natural, but when left to fester they can destroy relationships. Fighting is normal, and healthy. Fights are opportunities to work through stuff. But someone who truly loves you will never stay angry. He or she will work through the anger to get to the other side — that other side being a deeper understanding and mutual respect.
7. They will admit when they’re being a jerk.
Someone who never admits when he or she has made a mistake isn’t going to be able to love authentically. Loving means being vulnerable, and owning it when you’ve been a bona fide schmuck.
8. They will call you out on your bullsh*t.
My husband knows me well and isn’t afraid to tell me when my “baggage” is rearing its ugly head. In the moment, I want to strangle him, but ultimately, I love him for calling me out on my crap (and, of course, loving me anyway).
9. They will make you feel beautiful.
In our 22 years together, we’ve gone from being fresh-faced teenagers to exhausted parents pushing 40. But I STILL can’t change my clothes in front of my husband without him getting all oogly-eyed and silly. Now that’s love.
10. They will make you feel safe.
It goes without saying that a partner who’s physically or verbally abusive needs to be kicked to the curb. But all partners should give you a sense of safety. Usually it’s a pretty intuitive thing. You just know when you can trust someone, and this is solidified when they demonstrate that trust to you throughout the relationship.
Finding someone who loves you doesn’t mean your relationship will be without bumps. There are no perfect people or relationships — knowing and accepting that is half the battle.
What you need is a partner is who willing to try, who wants to make the effort to understand you, whose love is generous, demonstrated in concrete actions, and not just words or ideals. Once you’ve found that person, you’ll know it in your bones. And you’ll never let them go.

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